tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post624945190227774778..comments2024-03-24T13:12:39.210+13:00Comments on Bluestocking <i>Blue</i>: In Search of BeautyViviennehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-32044045001421295192020-09-07T18:26:10.917+12:002020-09-07T18:26:10.917+12:00Thanks for commenting Andrea.
I can certainly rel...Thanks for commenting Andrea.<br /><br />I can certainly relate to feeling like an outsider, which for me was very painful, and lasted more years than I care to admit. Your description of "pretending to enjoy myself" is very familiar.<br /><br />I agree that true attractiveness is about the inner person, not what you see on the outside.Viviennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-41116117859719303122020-09-05T09:06:07.370+12:002020-09-05T09:06:07.370+12:00As you say, most men want to be attracted to women...As you say, most men want to be attracted to women, that's part of their DNA, I like women, I have always got on well with women, I have had lots of women friends and thats the thing, in general women like me as a friend (a girl friend almost) but not attracted to me as a 'boy' friend. I don't fit the 'norm' I'm not hairy, not muscular, and certainly do not have tattoos. It took me years to work out who I am. Once I finally did, the picture became clear. I went to party's, events etc and never fitted in, no matter how hard I tried, I pretended to enjoy myself, but in truth I was an outsider. When I finally found myself and began going out with like minded people, my life changed, I was no longer skulking in in the corner I was with my friends having a great time. <br /><br />You can ponder about the 'what if's' for ever, if you had grown to be an 'attractive man' things might have been different, possibly..... If I had come to terms with who I am in the 70's things would have certainly been different, but would things have been better, who knows we are who we are and we have to learn to live with that and hopefully exploit it to our advantage. <br /><br />I personally think true 'attractiveness' has nothing to do with how someone looks, it's the inner person, and if that inner person connects with another person you have the recipe for a long relationship, the trick is to find the connection............Life by Andrea Ravenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06762074769116922679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-3431075116489240402020-09-01T15:38:26.450+12:002020-09-01T15:38:26.450+12:00Thank's for your comment Lynne.
I think that m...Thank's for your comment Lynne.<br />I think that most men definitely want to be attractive to women, but I think that tends to take the form of manly things (height, hair, muscles, tattoos) and vicarious manly things (cars, trucks, guns). I'm a complete failure in all of those categories!<br />When I want to be pretty, I want to be feminine-pretty. I've always felt this way, since I was a small child. But if I had grown into an attractive man, would that have been "enough"? Or would I still be this way? I think I would still be this way.<br />I've often said that attractiveness is about so much more than appearance--but over the Internet, appearance is just about all we can show!Viviennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-5051589948271007162020-08-31T20:56:29.670+12:002020-08-31T20:56:29.670+12:00If you were a cisgender man, perhaps yes. I say pe...If you were a cisgender man, perhaps yes. I say perhaps because ideally you'd need to ask a guy from outside our bubble. I dress as a bloke 99.9% of the time, but I still don't feel like a man. Like you, I also want to be pretty now and then. A fancy patterned shirt and the right boots/jeans help, but they are only temporary. <br /><br />FWIW, I try my hardest not to compare. I feel that would set things up as a completion and contests have winners and losers. I try to be happy for those who look great, dress well, or have something about them that makes them special (humour, a great smile, thoughtful, caring, etc.).Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.com