tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post2099385904041740498..comments2024-03-24T13:12:39.210+13:00Comments on Bluestocking <i>Blue</i>: Professional views of crossdressingViviennehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-77028174861021420342013-08-15T19:05:36.409+12:002013-08-15T19:05:36.409+12:00I am sure you are right Grok. Dressing makes me ha...I am sure you are right Grok. Dressing makes me happy and relaxed, and one of the biggest problems doing it alone is that I want to share the experience with other people.<br />Viviennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-88583016386669811002013-08-11T13:25:32.181+12:002013-08-11T13:25:32.181+12:00Grok again. I haven't experienced it, but I t...Grok again. I haven't experienced it, but I think that if one was allowed to be yourself-in a protected environment-one would have a sense of wholeness. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-86973421767308917522013-08-09T21:56:13.965+12:002013-08-09T21:56:13.965+12:00I agree; and I wish I were able to be myself unfet...I agree; and I wish I were able to be myself unfettered by other people's expectations.<br /><br />Vivienne.Viviennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-38913041363598369142013-08-09T04:59:40.197+12:002013-08-09T04:59:40.197+12:00Grok again. I believe that self-fulfillment, in t...Grok again. I believe that self-fulfillment, in this context, means being allowed to be yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-52761466511691461002012-10-08T20:45:22.217+13:002012-10-08T20:45:22.217+13:00Hi Ralph. Thanks for posting.
Once again I value t...Hi Ralph. Thanks for posting.<br />Once again I value the wisdom you bring to this blog.<br />I have looked for similar crossdressers on the web, but I gave up ages ago. Some of what I found was erotic, but some of it was weird, and some of it quite disturbing. Nobody seems to do what I want to do (dress up, drink tea and talk about intellectual stuff).<br />As you know I avoid the word "transvestite" because of the unpleasant connotations it carries (which you allude to above). I prefer "crossdresser" since it is a more neutral description of behaviour.<br />You're right that a series of simple helpful terms might help us to find like-minded individuals more easily. But there seems no agreement whatever on terms like "T-girl", or "transwoman". In a recent conversation, my wife indicated that she thought the T-girl was the woman who pushes the trolley round with the tea. It's not an unreasonable assumption.<br />I also like your idea of "comfort and self-fulfillment". Whatever the reasons, cross-dressing _is_ fulfilling to me, in a way that no other activity quite manages. Comfort is an interesting one, though. Physical comfort is not so clearly manifest (though there are pleasures from fabrics and so on), but psychological comfort, the quieting of those insistent voices, is just indescribable.<br />I chose the term "Bluestocking" as a word meaning an intellectual woman, but it also has connotations of those who don't quite fit in (the original Bluestockings were women who had education and opinions in an era when only men had those things; they were not always popular).<br />Apart from that, it's hard to think of a term. Since your behaviour and mine are quite dissimilar, I'm not even sure one word would suffice to describe us both! But I am open to suggestions...!<br />Best wishes,<br />Vivienne.Viviennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06137595207723645418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4642548439896244587.post-11594300632587525182012-10-07T04:31:00.202+13:002012-10-07T04:31:00.202+13:00Your thoughts echo mine in a lot of ways; in parti...Your thoughts echo mine in a lot of ways; in particular the concept of gender as a continuum. I describe it as a range from caveman to cinderella, with most men and women falling somewhere between the two extremes.<br /><br />But I'm of two minds about labels. On the one hand, they can be divisive and people who use labels to categorize others often do so by way of dehumanizing us ("Oh, he's only a transvestite" and you know how THEY all are..."). On the other hand, more accurately describing myself in theory makes it easier to find others with common interests. To put it another way, it's the difference between being required to wear a yellow star and wanting to wear the logo of your favorite sports team.<br /><br />More finely differentiated descriptions of the numerous TYPES of crossdresser interests me because the one word alone has led me to years of frustrating encounters. In my hunt for like-minded souls I'll join every crossdresser-related forum on the Internet and in virtual worlds such as Second Life. Instead of making contact with other men who like to dress for comfort and self-fulfillment, I read page after page about panty fetishes, sexual fulfillment through nylon, explicit descriptions of homosexual encounters ("Normally I consider myself straight, but...") and probably the vast majority of crossdressers who would more accurately be described as transsexual, either in the actual process of transition or held back only by lack of funding/courage/whatever.<br /><br />All of which is well and good for them, of course -- glass houses and all -- but sometimes I wish we as a group had more finely descriptive and universally understood terms for ourselves that would make google searches for like-minded individuals more productive and less frustrating.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com